Lately, I’ve been thinking about what confidence means to me. Confidence has always been something I have struggled with. I often wonder why it is I would question my own abilities to do anything. It was more of an issue when I was younger, and yet I have always wondered why am I afraid to fail? It’s crazy because deep down I know I can accomplish anything I put my mind to. It’s that evil doubt that creeps into my mind and starts making me question myself. I have proved this time and time again (not to toot my own horn by any means) with each challenge that comes to me, or I seem to find myself a part of, I come through. I may not always be perfect, I do stumble, and there are times where I fall, but confidence isn’t about never failing, it’s about getting back up and trying again.
I would say in the past year, I have done things that I just didn’t think I would be able to, I do fear the unknown. I feel anxious and scared to try new things, go places I never have and get involved in situations where I may just not be the best. It reminds me when I used to tell my son, You can’t quit because it’s hard, you have to learn from the experiences of trying.
I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be.”
~ Ken Venturi
So how does one gain confidence? I guess the first step would be to determine why it is you think you cannot do something, then do it anyway. If you tell yourself you could never do, see, accomplish, then you will be always be right, 100% of the time. I never thought I’d run a half marathon, or complete a triathlon, or an 8+ mile obstacle run. I never thought I’d want to, but it was more likely I feared that I would fail – so it was easier to avoid it by simply denouncing the notion that I wanted to even try.
experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face…
we must do that which we think we cannot.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt